I can't move, non-negotiable, until my caregiving responsibilities have run their course. Help me make peace with this. Anywhere within a two-hour radius would be similar.
Things I hate about it:
- absurd cost of living in general
- specifically, I hate having to live in a condo and pay stupid maintenance fees, deal with neighbours and condo board decisions because I can't upgrade to a townhouse or Jesus a detached home
- completely charmless now, everything cool is gone, not like I have time to enjoy whatever's left
- aesthetically gross
- impossible to get around due to poor management of infrastructure regardless of method. 45 minutes from anywhere and usually more. No question we'll have traffic and unreliable transit for the foreseeable future. I can't and don't want to bike.
- aggro vibe on the street
Realistically, my other parent will also need care. That parent doesn't want me doing hands-on caregiving, but I'll probably want and have to have a hand in it anyway. Wouldn't like to be too far from a sib I anticipate needing support down the line, either. The sib is a ways out in a slightly cuter area, parent is in this misery hole because her extensive network of friends is here.
After alllll of that I can maybe go somewhere enjoyable. When I'm in my 70s...